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The Dreaded Pregnancy

When I was very young, well probably in my early teens, I remember realizing what a women had to go through at the end of pregnancy.  I remember thinking “I’ll never have children!!!!”.  The pain scared me to no end!  I thought how I wasn’t going to get married for a little while, so I didn’t have to worry yet.

So here I was 23, marring my best friend and the thought hit me.. OMGOSH.. I might get pregnant! That means I’ll have to HAVE a baby! The thought seriously struck fear into me.

You see, I don’t like the unknown. I have always hated not knowing what to expect, what did the pain feel like? What did pregnancy feel like? Pushing the baby out?? OUCH!

And honestly, you REALLY can’t explain it much unless you’ve been through it, then you understand.

I soon forgot the “dreaded pregnancy” until I learned that I was indeed pregnant with my little Jeremiah. Oh sure, I had joy, lots of it! I mean read about how I found out I was pregnant with him here.  But inside I knew.. 9 months time and I would have to HAVE this baby.. (aaaaaaaaaaaa)  And C-section was NOT an option.. being cut? Oh I would rather HAVE the baby. I honestly feared it all.

SO what did I do with this fear of the unknown?

Immersed myself in ALL things about birthing a baby.

  • YouTube videos
  • Books
  • DVDs
  • Websites/Articles

You get the idea.  I found some great info. But really it wasn’t until I ran across “Laugh and Learn About Childbirth” that I really started to get it.  For some reason I felt more confident after having watched that over and over and over.

I remember asking my husband to watch it with me a bunch of times.. I even asked my mom to watch it with me.. Ya, it was on my favorite DVD list that year.

It explained lingo, explained the whole process, and what to expect in the hospital.  Stuff I had read already, but some how delivered better.

After having everyone watch it tons of times with me, we were all ready!

The day came.

The most dreaded day in my entire life.

Yet I felt confident. I had my two best friends with me, my mom and my husband.

On the way, a 30 min drive, my contractions weren’t all that bad. I could even sing in between them.

I remember the song too “Surrender” by Jeremy Camp.

(Oh ya, and I knew I was getting an IV in the hospital. ANOTHER BIG fear of mine, I HATE needles, of course after having like 15 shots within 10 mins when joined the military, it was not as big a fear as it used to be.)

Got hooked up to the IV, and was ready to go.

It was pretty bad. Back to back contractions, with hardly a break. I remember asking the Lord for a break, and He actually gave me 5 mins right after that. He is sweet.

It was back labor, I learned later. I had not gotten an epidural until I had to have forceps. I tried to push him out for 2 hours, and the doctor did not tell me he was sunny side up the stinker!  I found out later there was natural ways to get the baby to turn.

Oh well.

Forceps and an epi were on the order. Within mins, I was holding my precious boy. I didn’t know WHAT was in store for me from that day on, but I relished the moment of holding my sweet boy.

  1. I learned in that experience, to control my breathing. (LIFE savor!)
  2. I learned to not FEAR the birthing experience, because it IS natural. Really KNOWING that is helpful for me.
  3. I gained more confidence for the next birth, which was a cake walk in comparison! Because now I understand the process.

 

I am glad I don’t have to DREAD pregnancy anymore. talk about a big fear of mine!

To those who haven’t yet had a baby, it IS very natural to be afraid, but remember it is VERY natural to go through it. Many women have babies. :)  And if you are afraid like I was, dive into educating yourself about birth. It really helps.

I REALLY recommend Laugh and Learn About Childbirth, it’s got great info.

 

Comments

  1. Mom says

    :O) lol I remember all of that vividly. :O) I am glad you decided to overcome your fear and have little Jeremiah and Noah. :O) They are sure with it!!

  2. says

    That was an achievement to overcome you fear. I’ve been through in that stage to. Having pregnant is not an easy one. But I enjoy my pregnancy period and forget the pain.
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    • says

      Do check out the video. I love that she even tells about all the drugs used for the pain and everything. You get all sides. It’s seriously a great resource. And funny at times. ;) I was determined to go natural, so I had to learn other methods to handle the pain. Back labor is a MAJOR pain!

  3. says

    Sarah… such a great post!! Oh I too was so afraid of having a baby. Unlike you, I welcomed the news when my doctor told me I was having a c-section. I figured I’d rather have pain recuperating, than to push out watermelon through an opening the size of an apple! Oh the unknown… (yikes!) But then I knew it all … however this did not help me when my second child came because I was more anxious knowing what to expect. I just love how you thought that God was “sweet” .. made me chuckle. Never thought of Him that way, but I agree 100%!! Blessings to you and yours!!
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    • says

      Aww thank you! :D
      How was recuperating after the C-section? Did you get another one with your second?

      No joke about the watermelon feeling!! With my first, because of the epi and forceps, I didn’t feel the push out only all the labor right before the push out. But with my second I did feel the push. OUCH! But it’s over so fast. :) Especially in the pushing stage, and of course it being the second baby, they practically plop out. haha :)

    • says

      Totally! I am so thankful for my mom, she encouraged me to learn Lamaze breathing. When I was born, I was born in 30 min. Seriously. And that 30 min was just holding me in, because I would have come faster. Mom woke up one morning and boom, I was ready to come out. lol She had me at home needless to say, and because of the Lamaze breathing she got through it. I took that advise and learned how to try and go through it. :)

      I SO wanted to opt out with my first. I was so scared!
      I still want more children now, Lord willing, and husband convincing. ;)

      Ahh the joys of birth. Really an amazing miracle. And what precious results! Our children. :)

  4. says

    One of the scariest moments for me was thinking about giving birth to twins – but you are right…it’s natural. Women having been doing it for years. I loved it and would do it again in a heart beat!
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    • says

      OH MY! NO kidding! I would be scared beyond belief if I found out I was having twins!
      It is weird, how after that, it’s like “ya I can do this”. There just is something special about holding the baby afterwards, and just the beauty of it all! :)

    • says

      It’s funny that you suggest that, because this time around (I am pregnant with our third due in March), I have a midwife AND she is a Doula. :) Best of both worlds I think. ;)

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